Here’s My Problem With Lent

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I didn’t grow up in a tradition that observed Lent. Perhaps they found it too Catholic for their belief system. Now I minister in a church that observes Lent, Ash Wednesday and Maundy Thursday. To say that it was a steep learning curve for me is an understatement.                           It wasn’t that I couldn’t theoretically…

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The Importance Of LGBTQ-Affirmation To A Grieving Family

Black lives matter signs in front of a church.

At the time of my brother’s death in 2007, it was very important that our family be spared rejection by the church in a time of grief. Some people have said to me, “Well, you could’ve had Warren’s memorial service at our church.” But—their churches are not Open & Affirming. In the Christian Church (Disciples…

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Strength To Be Faithful

A bridge over a body of water at sunset.

The sun is setting a little later in the evening, but it sure is cold out. It must be Lent. Given that, I think that we, as LGBTQ Christians, need to take some time to examine our theology of loss. Let me give you a thought exercise: You are thirty years old. You have been…

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Why These South Dakota Pastors Are Standing Up For Trans Students

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Help us TELL GOVERNOR DAUGAARD: Christians Stand With Trans Students On behalf of a carload of clergy, representing four different Christian traditions, who left Sioux Falls at 3:00am to testify against H.B. 1008 last week, and on behalf of about a dozen clergy colleagues who couldn’t make the trip, I am asking Governor Daugaard to…

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When Religion Puts Our Lives In Peril

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Within my Christian upbringing, I attempt at being a spiritual person. I believe that our spirituality and faith is a source of strength and hope. Unfortunately, I have seen religion too oftentimes be a firmly held set of rituals beholden to a literal and legalistic interpretation. Historically and currently, religion is a source of spiritual…

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The Four Words This Kentucky Pastor Didn’t Expect To Hear

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I wasn’t going to call him back. I got the message off our church’s answering machine: “I want to ask you some questions,” the caller said, and he left his name and number. But I wasn’t going to call him back. Frankly, I was afraid. I was afraid the caller would be belligerent, combative, wanting…

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When Expanding Our Table Isn’t Enough

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As people who believe that Christianity has room for the LGBTQ community, we can be zealous about our efforts to win people to our side. We want people to understand that God truly does love everyone, that the Bible isn’t just a queer bashing book, and that people don’t have to throw away their faith…

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If Dr. King’s Dream Had Come True

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When I was in the fourth grade, I saw a video of Martin Luther King, Jr. delivering his “I Have a Dream” speech for the first time. As I was nine and we were watching it on a blurry box TV, I didn’t pay much attention to it. That was unfortunate because, as an adult,…

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The Man Who Buried Them Remembers

A statue of mary holding a child.

When he conducted the funerals, Tom Bonderenko tells me, he always wore his priestly garments and white stole. Even when no one showed up for the graveside service. “It was important to show dignity and respect,” Tom says. He taps the coffee cup in his lap nervously. “I’m sorry,” he says. He clears his throat…

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