How This Bisexual, Catholic Eagle Scout Found A Path Forward

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My childhood was defined by conflict. This conflict was only sometimes visible. Internally, however, the conflict was seismic and ever-present. As a young boy and teenager, I was constantly grappling with what it meant to be a faithful Catholic, an aspiring Eagle Scout, and someone who had same-sex attractions. This was hugely problematic. I was…

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Learning To Wear My Own Clothes

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My name is Carol and I live in the south of England. I am married to a straight man and am the usually proud owner of three children, two boys and a girl. Because we live in the UK, our kids have to wear school uniform.  For my younger son in primary school, this consists…

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New Show Features Gay Child In A Catholic Family

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The Real O’Neals, ABC’s latest comedy series which premiered last week, features a gay child coming of age in a Catholic family as a prominent storyline. Entertainment Weekly called the show, which airs Tuesday nights, “a sometimes sentimental, sometimes silly half-hour about a family trying out honesty—and, as a result, acceptance.”  The show features an Irish Catholic family that is…

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Why Title IX Matters—And Christian Colleges Shouldn’t Be Exempt

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Across the U.S., Christian colleges and universities are filing for exemptions to Title IX, a federal law that makes it illegal for schools to discriminate against students because of their gender. College was never something I thought a lot about growing up. I came from a background with an ingrained understanding that school was where…

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Coming Out…Again

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It seems that my last 40 years has been about coming out. And each time I come out, I’m filled with awe by the courage of those that have come before me. I’m afraid that those who have professed to love me will change their minds. I’m certain that I will again be “too much.”…

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The Man Who Buried Them Remembers

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When he conducted the funerals, Tom Bonderenko tells me, he always wore his priestly garments and white stole. Even when no one showed up for the graveside service. “It was important to show dignity and respect,” Tom says. He taps the coffee cup in his lap nervously. “I’m sorry,” he says. He clears his throat…

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A Christian Father’s Plea To Dads Of LGBTQ Kids

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If you would like more information about Robert’s private group for dads on Facebook, or if you just need to talk to someone, email him directly, or click here. Five years ago, my daughter came out. I love her. Nothing will ever change that. Nothing. I stand with her. I defend her. I believe in her. I…

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The Everyday Miracle Of God With Us

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When I was in high school, I secretly believed that the idea of God being ‘born’ was simply outrageous. Up to that time, I had been educated according to the scientific method and trained to use the tools of critical analysis that rely upon empirical verification to substantiate ‘truth.’ My education did not leave room…

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My First Trip Home For The Holidays As Myself

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Thanksgiving 2011 was the first time my mother met her eldest son. It was the first holiday I’d spent with my immediate family after coming out as transgender. Earlier that year, I’d written my mom a letter explaining my transition, and my new name and pronouns, telling her how much I loved her and how…

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