Discovering My Bisexual Christian Identity

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My first kiss was with my next-door neighbor—a young boy in my class. It was back when I didn’t know what it meant to be queer, what it meant to be bisexual, what it meant to be trans. We were together under a flagpole at recess, he told me that the previous night was “Hershey’s…

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Growing In My Faith & My Marriage

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Who am I? I know the answer that is normally given would be; name, age, hometown, college, work, children, pets. Those answers are available, but before I list the things you can find out with a quick search I will define myself. I am a lover, free spirit, one who is easy to laugh, but…

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Discovering Bisexuality As A Spiritual Calling

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Last year, I ordered the book Blessed Bi Spirit: Bisexual People of Faith because I realized I still had some things to come to terms with in regards to my sexuality and my faith. I wanted to continue writing and speaking about the intersection of queerness and Christianity in my life, but I couldn’t keep…

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Breaking The Curse Narrative

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Recently, two people–one queer and neurotypical, and one straight and mentally ill–confided similarly troubling worries to me. The first told me his mother had disowned him because he is gay, and, as he said, “to her that meant rejection of, and rejection by, God.”  The second said her extended family was no longer talking to…

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Searching For A Transgender Theology

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Recently one of my pastors wanted to do a series about bodies and how we live in them as Christians. As part of this she put out a call on Facebook: did we know any books by Queer theologians, particularly from voices in traditionally marginalized communities (trans, POC, female, and others)? As one of the…

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How I Navigated My Coming Out Process

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For those of us who are LGBTQ, we have almost certainly experienced some form of isolation, rejection, or tepid acceptance. This reality is simply a part of our story; but what I have come to learn in the past 18 months is that we all have beautiful, heart-breaking stories of truth. My story is really…

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New Book On Gay Marriage Raises The Bar On Love

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Honestly, it was hard for me to read this book. Even as an avid reader, it was hard to stick with it; however, it wasn’t hard for the reasons readers might assume. Some might jump to assume that it wasn’t well-researched, or well-written, or both. Some might even assume that it wasn’t catchy enough to…

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Why I’m The Proud Mother Of My Queer Son

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As my queer son grew in maturity and wisdom, I questioned so many things—my importance in my son’s life, the world’s ideology, family members’ loyalties, my son’s safety, his happiness, and whether or not who he is is who he wants to be. Even though I have been faced with certain surprises, God has NEVER…

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