“Sexual orientation is not a sin. Gender identity is not a sin. We are all created in the image of God.”

For me, more than anything else—this statement is what I want to hear from our religious leaders. I want to hear the unambiguous pronouncement that people who are same gender loving, bisexual, transgender, non-gender conforming folk, otherwise and queer—are God’s wondrous gift.

I want to hear that we are not God’s mistake.

Matthew Vines, author of God and the Gay Christian and convener of The Reformation Project that took place in Washington, D.C. last week has said as much in a recent BBC interview, stating: “There is no contradiction between being Christian and being gay.”

Along with Matthew’s voice from the Conservative Evangelical community, more and more authors are coming forward with books that explore and attempt to better understand Scripture, as it relates to queer folk—an understanding that will hopefully continue to unwind decades of harmful dogma and practices towards our community.

The message of these emerging groups of authors and Christian leaders is helping to create a shift toward healing and reconciliation. Still, I want to hear the bold and prophetic chorus from our leaders that un-defines us as “sin”:

“Sexual orientation is not a sin. Gender identity is not a sin. We are all created in the image of God.”

At the close of The Reformation Project’s D.C. conference, and just prior to worship, Dr. David Gushee, Professor of Christian Ethics and Director of the Center for Theology and Public Life at Mercer University provided the keynote address. A distinguished speaker and author, Dr. Gushee is an influential and important advocate for change in Christian, evangelical and academic communities.

His coming out as an ally for LGBTQ equality is momentous, and his broad comments have within them seeds of wisdom and great healing. Yet, even in the midst of his statements on the need for change in faith communities and equality for our queer family, I felt the old sensation of an impending attack mount as Dr. Gushee came to a close with the following:

Ultimately, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians must be accepted and welcomed in the Church on the same basis as any other sinner saved by grace. Their – your – participation in Christian community must be governed by the same principles that apply to any other believer.

For many in this room such a claim is an obvious truth. But as you well know it is not a truth universally acknowledged. In the end, incremental progress toward partial, conditional half-acceptance is not enough. You (we) are right to ask and to require full, unequivocal, equal acceptance in Christ’s church on the same terms as every other sinner saved by the grace of God in Jesus Christ.

There it was again, the “we are all sinners” line—spoken not once, but twice. No matter the intention, here’s the message I hear: “We are all sinners, and these folks’ sin is that they are queer. Still, because we are Christians we should welcome these sinners and their sin into the Church.”

As a gay Christian, I’ve heard and felt this sentiment so many times it makes me uneasy even to write it here.

Harmatia, the Greek word for “sin,” translates as “missing the mark,” which for me means the “distance between us and God.” Whatever increases that distance between our creator and us by teachings, practices, fear, oppression, marginalization or conditional love—those are the “sins” that we need to address.

Our sexual orientation and gender identity do not distance us from God. And I am convinced that as long as the concept of sin is caught up in our understandings of sexual orientation and gender identity, our best of efforts for LGBTQ inclusion will fail.

I welcome the small steps, as they lead us forward. Yet, we are at an incredible intersection, a kairos momentin which the Spirit is stirring us together, replete with the tension that comes close can often produce, and out of which great leaps are possible in welcoming all into the Kindom of God. It is time to take the leap. It is time to write it, say it, and preach it:

Sexual orientation is not a sin. Gender identity is not a sin. We are all created in the image of God.

From there we can talk about admissions of the wrong done to one another; we can talk about amends and healing and reconciliation. We can talk about the New Jerusalem. But until we have agreed upon the statement above, we risk our words and writings and speaking remaining code for: “God loves you; it’s just your sin God hates.”

This “high-pitched whistle” that brings sin into conversations of LGBTQ inclusion is a subtext that calls for an immediate response. It is always marginalizing and, as such, a component of violence, especially when fueled by notions of faithfulness.

We know how difficult it can be to speak from deep within the center of who we are. When I started speaking publically as a gay man. I couldn’t get the “g” out without a conscious effort, knowing that whatever reactions followed were out of my control.

And as hard as it can be for us to be out, it is another struggle to present ourselves as a Christians who are queer.

In so doing we trust in God in spite of all the perceptions, teachings and practices that have been so harmful to many in our community, family and friends, including the idea of accepting LGBTQ people, sinners though they are.

Is it any wonder that many friends think we have lost our minds by being Christian? For some, it is as though we have aligned ourselves with our adversaries. Which is why, if we really hope for change—and the speeches and books and lectures are for real—leadership in the church and academia must go deeper.

It is worth it all and all the risks to speak the good news: “Sexual orientation is not a sin. Gender identity is not a sin. We are all created in the image of God.”

Say it, write it, preach it once, and then again to make sure the message is heard.

From there we can fully live into the New Jerusalem that has too long been a distant promise for us, all of us, together.

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