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Aug 21, 2013

I recently began corresponding with an old friend of mine who also grew up in a conservative Christian family. She is now an ordained minister and is the woman who presided over my marriage to my wife. We became friends in high school, but we hadn’t talked since graduation.

When I moved to Seattle for graduate school, she messaged me out of the blue. We met for dinner and quickly became kindred friends again. This reconnection was years ago now, and I recently asked her about what she remembers about this time of reconnection. 

Aug 01, 2013

I have my father's hands. I feel a connection and affection for my dad every time I look at my fingers, the shape of my knuckles and nail beds. I feel much of who I am today is because of ways he guided and taught me. He is a good man and I could not have asked for a better dad. And yet, I still stayed hidden from him for many years.

I distanced my true heart from my father and ultimately distrusted his heart for me.   

Jul 05, 2013

When I think about being a therapist and my past feelings about therapy, a big smile appears on my face. I smile because I still cannot believe how misdirected my personal feelings about therapy once were.

Mar 12, 2013

This morning, I awoke to a disturbing message on Facebook from one of my college roommates. “You are wrong. The Bible in no way supports your life. I cannot support nor ignore this decision while you claim to be a Christian. I am going to un-friend you,” it said.

Her feelings about my life choices are not surprising to me, given that she and I were very different in college. However, I was surprised that she felt the need to cut the relationship off—a Facebook relationship, nonetheless.

Feb 25, 2013

I plan to marry my partner of more than seven years this May. As we both grew up in Christian families and attended Christian undergraduate and graduate schools, the process of coming out and coming to terms with being gay has not been easy or quick for either one of us. But I’m grateful for all those years of struggle and pain, because it’s going to make our celebration that much sweeter!

It almost feels like we’re planning the party to celebrate the fighting after a long battle.


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